I still remember when politics took a turn for me. My daughter wasn’t quite two yet when President Obama was sworn into office. Politics changed in that election because I knew it would not only affect my life from now on, but my kids’ futures.
Fast forward eight years, my daughter’s extra credit is to watch the presidential debate. The political landscape has changed and become much more hostile. I have two kids at home who are great at watching and listening to those around them. Last spring we had family friends over for dinner, and the four kids shared what they were hearing at school. “My friends said they’re moving to Canada if Trump wins. Will we move to Canada too?” They then proceeded to share all the fun “names” they’ve heard for the candidates.
Our kids are like little sponges and they are watching and listening. I often forget this as I rant about politics these days. I’m passionate, opinionated, and I feel strongly about what’s happening in our country right now. But I have to remind myself daily to keep myself in check because my kids are going to emulate what I say and do. So what is it that I hope to pass on to my kids, no matter what I think of whose running for president?
God has given us a brain and the ability to research, ask hard questions, and make up our own minds based on what we think is the best option. We can’t rely on others to think for us.
ALL people are valuable and have significant worth
We may not agree with someone or like them but they still have value as a human. We do not have to condone dishonesty, racism, bigotry, hatred, sexual misconduct, etc. In fact, we should stand up against those things, but try to remember that all humans have worth and to remain empathetic.
Our words matter
Words are a reflection of what’s going on inside our hearts and minds, and they sway our actions. We can use our words to build others up or tear them down. I hope my children choose words that give life.
Live out your values
We live in a diverse world with different values, and that’s okay. My husband and I talk about our values on a regular basis because they guide our family, our choices, and our future. It’s okay to stand up for what you value, even if you sometimes feel alone.
It’s possible to have a healthy conversation
If you are in relationship with others, you will have conflict. There will be times we disagree both with those we love and those we don’t know at all. Let’s have conversations (in person is always best) without belittling, name calling, shaming, or belligerence. I should treat other’s the way I want to be treated.
Be a good listener
I often tell my kids we have two ears and one mouth for a reason. Understanding comes with listening. Each person has a story, a reason for their beliefs, fears, and hopes. We may just learn something, find empathy, and even have a perspective shift if we just take the time to listen.
The best does not always win
It’s no newsflash to us as adults that the world is unfair and what we think is the best doesn’t always win. This can be a great teaching moment now if our candidate does not win but also throughout life. We have to learn to deal with our disappointments when life isn’t fair.
Whether it’s in U.S. politics or on the playground at school, let’s pass on to our children the hope that good can be found in each situation, and to be the kind of person that you wish others would be. Extend kindness when a harsh word is easier, love the unlovable, offer a listening ear, seek to understand, and remember that everyone has value no matter their political background, race, or religion. Or whether you agree with them or not. Let’s make the world a better place for the future of our little ones, starting in our own homes.