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connection

Creating Opportunities for Connection

She sits at her table with a stack of laminated photos of her sisters, each one telling a story about a brief moment in time during their life. She shuffles and organizes them into piles as she gains a sense of connection to her siblings. They are in no particular order although I do think […]

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loss

Mothering, Unmoored

One of the last things my mother said to me before she died is that I was a good mom. I hold on to this thought when things become unhinged. By that, I mean, when I become unhinged. Before our loss, my mother was many things; courageous, funny, alarmingly thrifty, but the one thing she […]

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heaven

Mother’s Day Love From Heaven

Every-other Friday while my daughter was in preschool I had coffee dates with a friend whose five-year-old son had gone to heaven just two weeks after Mother’s Day that year. Over coffee and hot chocolate, my friend would share stories with me about her boy and the bond that only a mother knows. She would light up […]

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socks

Dirty Socks: An Unexpected Gift

We are a no-shoes-in-the-house family; at least that is the rule we, or I, set for our family. This means  we have a bin at the front and back doors where shoes with mucky soles go, and only socks are allowed up and down the halls. I made this rule in an attempt to keep […]

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Anna’s Mom: Being Present Through Grief

Anna was starting first grade and I remember looking at her in the rear view mirror on our way to school, she sat silent looking out the window. I could tell by the look on her face that she was contemplating something. “Are you nervous Anna?” “A little,” she said quietly without breaking her stare […]

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